When Haley wants me I want her to say "Mom." I really do.
I ask her to do that. I talk to her about it. I even ask her to repeat after me "Mom."
She won't do it.
In her entire life I only remember her doing it once.
She does know how to get my Attention though.
She does it by making sounds. Sounds that annoy me. I have to answer those sounds. Occasionally my husband, in his most helpful way, tells me to ignore them, but I can't.
I just can't.
The sounds that she makes are sometimes whiny, sometimes frustrated, sometimes pathetic, sometimes insistent, almost always incessant. I just can tell that she needs something. That she needs help. That she needs me.
I know that because if she were to ask for help, she wouldn't ask her Dad or her Big Sis. She would ask me. But, she doesn't ask me. She just knows that I am the one that will respond. It is kind of a vicious cycle.
There are other ways she gets my Attention.
She sometimes brings me things. Things that she wants that she can't quite do for herself. She is trying to be helpful.
I have been making her cocoa using Nestle's Quik and Rice Milk. The other day we ran out of Quik. She knew that. She went to the cupboard and brought me a box of Keurig coffee cups. I just smiled at her. She said "I want coffee please."
Well, that is one solution.
Sometimes she just wants my Attention, just because. She likes to show me the things she finds on the computer. Sometimes it is something on the internet, sometimes it is a picture from our own files.
The other morning we were sitting at the kitchen table. We had both finished our breakfast. I was reading the paper and drinking my coffee and she was on her laptop. I must have been engrossed in what I was reading because she was getting impatient with me.
It would seem that she had been trying to get my Attention to know avail.
She snapped her fingers at me.
I immediately looked right at her. She then pointed at the screen.
That is her go to gesture now. If I don't respond right away she snaps her fingers at me.
Today she did it every time she wanted to show me something.
Again I asked her to just say "Mom."
I wonder if she ever will.